What is your definition of forgive?

What is your definition of forgive?

I think forgive means deciding not to act on a misdeed against you towards the person who offended you.

Not forgiving means you plan to take revenge on that person sooner or later. It does not matter if you have forgotten what the misdeed was. It is possible to forget but not forgive.

Forgetting means writing off an event that occurred, meaning you decide to deny that a specific misdeed was ever done against you.

Changing what you believe or how you function in response to a misdeed against you is simply learning, which is independent of forgiving and forgetting.

World history shows us we are good at forgetting, bad at forgiving, and almost never learn.

All combinations of learning and not learning, forgiving and not forgiving, forgetting and not forgetting are possible.

Love gives you the ability to reinterpret an event so that instead of deciding that a misdeed was done against you, you decide that there was nothing wrong with the event, and therefore nothing to forgive.


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